{"id":12202,"date":"2012-06-20T13:55:33","date_gmt":"2012-06-20T17:55:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marcellee.com\/?p=12202"},"modified":"2020-12-26T05:52:45","modified_gmt":"2020-12-26T10:52:45","slug":"would-you-break-up-with-your-girlfriend-or-leave-your-wife-if-her-face-were-badly-disfigured-in-a-fire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marcellee.com\/?p=12202","title":{"rendered":"question : Would you break-up with your girlfriend or leave your wife if her face were badly disfigured in a fire?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s an extra hypothetical question for me because I plan on never having a wife to &#8220;leave&#8221; or a monogamous girlfriend to &#8220;break-up&#8221; with. It&#8217;s also a question that can be interpreted in different ways. The most obvious meaning asks if you&#8217;d break-up with your girlfriend or leave your wife because her face, which was normal before, were suddenly disfigured in a fire. It could also be meant to ask if her face being disfigured would stop you from leaving or breaking-up with her for any reason. My answer to the latter obscure meaning is no; it wouldn&#8217;t stop me. My answer to the former obvious meaning is that I almost certainly would.<\/p>\n<p>Looks, in an aesthetic sense, are extremely important to me when it comes to a romantic partner, particularly her face, and I simply wouldn&#8217;t tolerate being with a girl I&#8217;m not physically attracted to, let alone a girl I consider ugly. Depending on how much damage the fire has done to her face or if it&#8217;s &#8220;badly&#8221;, I&#8217;d probably consider it (her) ugly as a result, or at least uglier enough not to want to be with her. I&#8217;d probably, almost certainly, leave her or break-up with her. If I like her personality, we could remain friends and maybe even continue to have sex, at least face-away sex, if she wants to without any romantic strings attached.<\/p>\n<p>Even as friends, I wouldn&#8217;t want to go out in pubic with her though. I think I&#8217;d get used to the new face to the point where I wouldn&#8217;t mind being around her, but the odd stares and general discomfort it would bring about in other people would be embarrassing. I&#8217;d be embarrassed for her even if I weren&#8217;t actually with her. Being with her, being the person seen with her, would make me feel embarrassed for both of us. I&#8217;d rather be seen with someone who looks normal but is acting crazy as embarrassing as that itself could be. If the disfigured girl were my &#8220;girlfriend&#8221; or wife, being seen with her is something I&#8217;d be subjected to much more often.<\/p>\n<p>The funny thing is that I doubt I&#8217;d have the gall to just blatantly leave her or break-up with her as a result of her face being disfigured. I wouldn&#8217;t want to hurt or humiliate her by telling her I&#8217;m ending our relationship for that reason, especially if she has a kind and bashful personality. Even if I were to suddenly end it and claim it&#8217;s for some other reason, I think it would be obvious that it&#8217;s not. I&#8217;d have to wait it out for some time, perhaps a few months, and just try to endure until enough time has passed for me to pretend I&#8217;m ending it for another reason and make it convincing. Either that or I&#8217;d give her a reason to end it herself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s an extra hypothetical question for me because I plan on never having a wife to &#8220;leave&#8221; or a monogamous girlfriend to &#8220;break-up&#8221; with. It&#8217;s also a question that can be interpreted in different ways. 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